Sometimes, people may ask you to do things that can feel absolutely pointless.
And they’ll take some pride in it. They might act really freaking gallant.
But that doesn’t mean they’re the villains you say they are.
Sometimes they’re just getting joy from the ability to manipulate possibilities toward self-interested goals,
while not being ashamed to get other people to do the type of emotional labor that they’ve done.
If you can see through their easygoing pride, you can get them to act upon your preferences.